Get to Know Me!

What better way to kick off a blog than to introduce myself? My name is Christy Little, and I am a devoted and loving mother to a rowdy and clever little boy. I heard a quote when he was a baby about our children being pieces of our heart walking around outside our bodies. Nothing has ever felt truer to me. When I am not loving on him, I work as a licensed marriage and family therapist in Washington state.  I am also a clinical supervisor and help pre-licensed therapists through their experience hours to get fully licensed.

I love my work, truly. I know not many people are fortunate enough to be able to say that, but I genuinely love helping people learn how to honor and nurture themselves and their relationships. In fact, when I was pregnant with my son and people were trying to convince me to stay home with him full-time, I remember feeling horror at the idea of not being able to do this work. I recently began working with a graphic designer for this site, and when I first talked with her, she asked me what my work was all about. I responded, “I teach people how to love each other better.”  It’s really all I have ever wanted to do since I was in my early 20s chose this career path. I remember thinking, “Huh! Marriage and family therapy? Working with people to prevent divorce and more wrecked kids? I could do that for the rest of my life!”  And so, here I am…

When I was a kid, I was told repeatedly that I was too sensitive, that I wore my heart on my sleeve, and that people would destroy me if I didn’t toughen up. I had one or two best friends but never really felt connected to or understood by anyone.  As a middle schooler, I still didn’t have many friends, and I wanted to be accepted and loved by any means possible. So I sort of became a chameleon. I made friends in different groups by assimilating to them. I was never actually myself, and really, did I even know?  I guess MOST kids really don’t; so it’s not too bad…

When I was a teenager, my parents got divorced. It’s not an unusual tale these days- roughly 50% of all marriages end in divorce. (That number has decreased a bit, but it still hovers around the 50% mark.) My parents did the best they could with the tools and the emotions they had at the time, but all of my family members still turned out a little worse for wear. Some of us are just now recovering from those wounds, and some of us haven’t even started- don’t know where to start.

In early adulthood, I floundered around trying to find my people and my path in life. Once I found marriage and family therapy, I knew I’d found the thing I could do. I still hadn’t found my people, but at least I was on a path to some kind of success.  Getting older, becoming a mom, suffering multiple damaging relationships, and learning more about love and myself, I’ve learned that sometimes you don’t find your people by looking for them.  Sometimes, you just have to stand up, shine your light, and let your people find their way to you. And so, again, here I am…

Over time, you guys will learn I have strong feelings about how to love and nurture ourselves and those around us. I also have a lot of years of experience working with couples and individuals. So I know what a lot of this oblivion, hatred, and lack of empathy that flows freely throughout our society does to people and to relationships. I hear their stories, and I see their suffering. I offer them understanding and acceptance and help them heal their wounds. Then I teach them skills to prevent future wounds. It’s a big job, and it never feels like it’s done. That’s why I wanted to start this blog. No matter how hard I try, I will never reach all the people who need to hear these messages of love, understanding, and acceptance, but with a more global forum like the internet- and with your help- I have the opportunity to reach more people than I can see in my small office in WA. So if anything about the content here speaks to you, reminds you of someone, or just sparks a desire to share, please do so! The world needs our light. And while you’re at it, go check out the page for my new ebook: The Intimacy Secret: Nurture Yourself and Connect with Your Partner.

If you know me or you have worked with me before, you know I like to keep things comfortable and open. This blog will be the same way- open, comfortable, approachable. Send me an email or comment, and I will respond because I truly appreciate you for taking the time.

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